You have untapped reserves of relational power and influence.
Why I coach
I started coaching to help people reconnect with the loves of their lives and recover from heartbreak. My coaching has evolved into the reconnection and recovery of love in all forms — obviously romantic love, but also repairing and recovering from a painful relationship to our selves, our life’s true love.
Coaching is my solution to the decreasing availability of community spaces for smart, motivated people to share their emotional experiences, to not feel alone in their feelings, and to compassionately receive and offer practical insights and suggestions to move through deeply personal, emotional experiences.
In particular, there is a lack of community spaces for people who are like me in any way— immigrant parents, layered sociocultural identity, born female, fluid gender identity, person of color, smart, creative, traumatic backgrounds, experiences of grief and loss, and neurodivergent. Anyone who feels different, outside, and in between.
For decades, I felt singular in my journey, even though I am successful in my career, have a wonderful, culturally rich life with many friends and loved ones, and have a beautiful relationship with my husband. I continuously sought ways and spaces to assert myself, reached for more and deeper connections, and dreamt of spaces in which I could listen to and share the deeply emotional reactions to the experiences that Life brings.
What I coach about
I coach about the strategic pursuit and tactical expression of love, authenticity, and healthy relationships. This includes:
Heartbreak, romantic reconnection (considerations, analysis, strategy), breakup recovery, and moving on (considerations, analysis, strategy)
Being high-performing & successful on your own terms, authenticity, agency, boundaries, confidence
Trauma, grief, loss, change, neurodivergence
LGBTQ+, POC, and/or immigrant topics
Navigating difficult family and friend situations, and other personal relationship dynamics
Discrimination of any kind, sociocultural challenges
Pillars for coaching
Thoughtful
Supportive
Intelligent
Principles
My coaching has three principles:
Thoughtful. My coaching is a thoughtful experience that recognizes where the client is emotionally and works to align client wants with client needs and values.
Supportive. Coaching is affirming and supportive. My coaching does not question the validity of a client’s feelings or experience. I emotionally sit alongside the client, help navigate experiences, compassionately point out misalignment between desires, values, and goals, and keep goals in sight.
Intelligent. Coaching is tactical, practical, and focused on the now and the future. In every session, we discuss observations, thoughts, fears, progress, feelings, and other factors, and we connect all of it to strategy, timelines, objectives, and actions.
Coaching Dimensions
Every situation I coach about is complex because human beings are complex. As such, each coaching session tracks five dimensions:
Intellectual. The information and analysis that define our experiences. Data, actions, observations, interactions, narratives, and interpretations.
Emotional. The experience of our emotional selves. Feelings, values, needs, wants, mental health challenges, neurodivergence.
Physical. The experience of our physical bodies, including space, safety, personal physical environment, physical health, injury, and illness.
Relationships. Connections and experiences that result from those connections, including romantic relationships, friends, family, pets, disconnections, breakups, reconciliation, repair, loneliness, belonging, isolation, community.
The World Around Us. The geopolitical environment and sociocultural and economic forces that shape the world in which we exist, including our physical environment, where we live, work, and worship, conflicts domestically and abroad, political and sociocultural issues, and challenges arising from constructs regarding age, gender, sexuality, race, ethnicity, religion, etc.
Rhyme & Reason Coaching Dimensions
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Intellectual
Thoughts, Observations
Narratives, Communication
Interactions
Analysis, Facts
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Emotional
Trauma, Differences, Gifts
Guilt, Shame
Fear, Safety
Joy, Satisfaction
Resilience, Freedom -
Physical
Health, Illness, Injury
Our bodies
Physical space
Personal environment
Individual safety -
Relationships
Romance
Family, Children, Pets
Friends
Loneliness, Isolation
Connection, Disconnection Reconciliation, Repair -
The World Around Us
Physical environment
Where We Live, Work, and Worship
Conflicts - domestically and abroad
Political and sociocultural impacts
Challenges of age, gender, sexuality, race, ethnicity, religion, etc.
Frequently asked questions
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Coaching is not therapy, just like social media is not therapy. Coaching is not a replacement for medical or legal advice. If you are experiencing an emergency of any kind, immediately contact local authorities and go to the closest hospital.
Coaching is tactical, practical guidance and is the forward-thinking, strategic piece of your emotional support team. Coaching is focused primarily on the present and the future. There are different coaching certification programs, and the world’s gold standard for coaching and certification is the International Coach Federation (ICF).
If your life was like driving a car, therapy is focused on driving from your point of origin and checking your rearview and sideview mirrors. In this scenario, coaching is focused on driving towards your destination and scanning the road ahead and what is in front of you.
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While coaching is not therapy, my coaching practice follows HIPAA, engages in 50 continuing education credit hours a year (the standard for LMFTs and LCSWs is 35 hours per year), and is endorsed and supervised by board-certified psychiatrists and board-certified neurologists. This level of oversight is not required of coaches, but I willingly do so because my clients trust me with important, vulnerable parts of themselves.
My degrees, certifications, and training are:
Continuing education classes in dialectical behavior therapy, attachment theory, parent-child estrangement, trauma
Grief, loss
Authenticity, by the International Coach Federation
250 hours of training
Trauma and Trauma Recovery, by the International Association of Trauma Recovery Coaches
2 years of training
Masters Degree, Business Administration, focus on strategy, healthcare, and finance, Duke University Fuqua School of Business
Bachelors Degree, Neuroscience, Women’s Studies, Physics, Duke University
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No, I do not accept insurance. Coaching is not therapy and is not regulated or licensed at the state or federal level. Coaching does not quality for insurance in the United States.
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Mental healthcare is a right, not a privilege. Therefore, if you are in financial need, please inquire about my sliding scale.
Initial sessions are intake sessions, are mandatory (because I create an individualized gameplan for you), and range from $250-400.
All sessions after the initial session are follow-up sessions and range from $80-200.
Full payment is required in order to schedule a coaching session. Sessions are non-refundable.
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100%. I’m an inclusive, LGBTQ+ affirming, and BIPOC coach. As a Filipino-American woman born and raised in Arkansas, with immigrant parents, and who identifies as queer, I understand the importance of inclusivity, acceptance, and affirmation. My practice is inclusive and affirming for all.
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My clients are smart, motivated, and thoughtful. They deeply engage with the world around them and consistently, authentically are themselves regardless of setting.
Rhyme & Reason clients range in age from teenagers with parental consent to people in their late 70s.
My clients tend to fall into one of three categories: 1) College age through 30, 2) Clear passions, solid career paths, and undergoing or facing unusual challenges, and 3) Learning how to be independent and redefining who they are outside of the roles they have in life.
Professionally, my clients run the gamut — unemployed, students, professional athletes, gig workers, executives, blue collar workers, royalty, farmers, and celebrities. Regardless of profession or socioeconomic status, every client has influence over how the world runs.